tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post8821520944371294660..comments2024-02-10T05:03:51.621-05:00Comments on Alzheimer's - My Mom My Hero: BEING A LONG DISTANCE CAREGIVERAlzheimer's My Mom My Herohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06521298907696128213noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-16008209654823135282023-08-19T07:47:17.894-04:002023-08-19T07:47:17.894-04:00kuşadası
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Hugs, LisaAlzheimer's My Mom My Herohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06521298907696128213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-34822371180665109032018-04-24T09:43:42.764-04:002018-04-24T09:43:42.764-04:00Sharon I certainly and respect your comment and th...Sharon I certainly and respect your comment and the last sentence is the one that means to most to me. "Either way, though, it's really difficult and we have to do what works for our situation and family and you just can't worry what anyone else thinks about that." Yes we are all in different situations like everything else in ones life. Thanks again for sharing. Hugs, LisaAlzheimer's My Mom My Herohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06521298907696128213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-33552000739253008002018-04-23T11:38:33.211-04:002018-04-23T11:38:33.211-04:00You are her daughter distance does not matter You are her daughter distance does not matter Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15304397325511582247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-39214506940306448762018-04-23T11:32:41.162-04:002018-04-23T11:32:41.162-04:00Of course you are not a bad daughter. This disease...Of course you are not a bad daughter. This disease is horrible no matter what your circumstances. We all grieve the slow loss of our loved ones. It hurts whether you're up close or far away and everyone has their own situation and has to do what works for their family. <br /><br />That said, I will say that it is really different to be up close doing the heavy lifting every day with no breaks, dealing with sadness, aggression, hallucinations, escape attempts yourself (especially for those who are truly doing this alone) than it is to do it through an aid or a staff at a care facility. That doesn't mean it's bad or wrong or that you are a "bad" daughter (what a stupid thing for anyone to say to you!), but it IS different. Perhaps that is what people were reacting to. I don't say this to be mean, but because I've personally had it both ways. I had a grandfather with Alzheimer's and the experience of going to visit him and calling while someone else did the primary care was very different from being the one who is there all the time watching it happen up close and personal. It's a very different experience when you've given up a lot of your life and freedom to care for someone else. Either way, though, it's really difficult and we have to do what works for our situation and family and you just can't worry what anyone else thinks about that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-36263796691383185102018-04-22T08:47:32.378-04:002018-04-22T08:47:32.378-04:00Barb, I feel like we could be "twins" or...Barb, I feel like we could be "twins" or certainly "related". We do and have for quite a while many unfortunate similarities. I only wish for nicer reasons. As always xoxoAlzheimer's My Mom My Herohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06521298907696128213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3463278702289836291.post-72704298573966772772018-04-21T20:08:30.469-04:002018-04-21T20:08:30.469-04:00You are absolutely a caregiver and you are no less...You are absolutely a caregiver and you are no less a daughter even though you do not live near your mom. You love her, you care for her from a distance. That's the only difference. <br />From one website: "Broadly defined, caregiver refers to any family member, partner, neighbor or friend who has a significant relationship with and/or provides assistance for an older individual."<br />As I've written before, our situations are very similar. Many of the situations that you have written about have also happened to me.<br />I live 975 miles from my mom. I visit her as often as I can afford (5-6 times a year). My sister lives near her and has medical POA. My mom has been in a nursing home for 6 years after she suffered a stroke. It was our only option but I still suffered terrible guilt over it. <br />I am a "caregiver". If am "lucky" I speak with my mom a few times a week (sadly our daily chats are not possible now). I am involved in her care plan meetings and decisions with my sister. When I visit my mom I spend 6-7 hours with her each day (more time than my sister actually spends with her). I've also hired a "sitter" to visit a few times during the week to check up on things at the nursing home when my sister can't be there.<br />So yes, we are caregivers and we are the best daughters we can possibly be.<br />Much love and hugs to you!<br />~Barb Babalaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02546176506027149065noreply@blogger.com