SO VERY PROUD
Dreaming of mom for me is unusual, yet this week I awoke from a dream about her that touched me deeply. It left me feeling all warm and cuddly inside. We were being interviewed by this lady and mom appeared to be forty years younger. In the dream I felt uncomfortable when mom was surprised that I was her daughter. Despite this, I loved being with her and seeing her so full of life, wanting only to return to my dream. I was unable to.
During the holiday season it had been difficult to speak to mom for at least a week. Inside of me, I had all these feelings of how much I missed her, and yearned to hear her say my name.
Last week one evening my brother called to tell me that mom took a fall from her Merry Walker. He was at the nursing home and said that no one saw what happened, except that mom had a rather large gash on her head, located next to her eye. No stitches were needed yet she refused to allow a bandage to be left on her face. The nursing home had hospice assign an aide to sit with her, for at least twenty four hours, which ended up lasting for two days.
Through the last several years mom has taken falls and has happily never fractured anything. I have heard how easily ones breaks something, especially after they have Alzheimer's. It is also quite difficult to fully recover after such an incident.
Fortunately, the only thing that transpired was mom became more confused for a few days . She quickly bounced back to herself and marched on as she strolled the halls of the nursing home, in her Merry Walker. Like Martha Thatcher who was known as the "Iron Lady". Ruth Elian, my mom has become the "Bionic Woman".
At the age of eighty nine except for having Alzheimer's and macular degeneration she takes no medication and is as healthy as anyone could ever wish for.
Things have returned back to "normal" and we are able to share with each other how much we love one another .This lady somehow never stops to amaze me. I'm not sure where her inner strengths come from, yet for the last nine years she has become my hero and I am so proud that she is my mother.
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Wonderful post and full of hope! We commend your and your mom's courage.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Jeremy.
DeleteSo glad to hear she was able to return back to her pleasant self. That is truly a blessing! I love how you are such a great encourager! What a great team you make!
ReplyDeleteMy parents positive upbringing rubbed off on me. As I said in blog post last week...Lucky, Lucky Me.
Deletethank you for sharing Lisa, this reminds me of the fall my mom took while she was going to the bathroom, she ended up with 2 purple eyes. The next day when she was leaving the bathroom I said to her mom you have to be careful take a look and as she looked in the mirror she said to me That's Not Me. It was then I realized a loved one with Alzheimer's does not see the person they are at the moment but they do live in the moment. It was heart breaking experience but she has a walker now that she uses and never lets that walker out of her sight. thank you Lisa for Sharing as it reminds me how strong and dear Moms are. Bakhus
ReplyDeleteBakhus,can be so proud of who we are because of our mothers.
DeleteLove reading about your love for your Mom. Alzheimer's is awful. As I read your account tof her fall, it's like I'm reading about my Mom, who recently had a fall. She was fortunate also. Loving my Mom too!
ReplyDeleteHi Sheila,
DeleteWe are both so lucky to have and love our mom's in whatever "form" they're in. Lucky us
Hugs to you & mom, Lisa
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your mom sounds a lot like mine - strong and amazing! I am going through a similar experience with my 91 year old mom and reading your blog helps me during the tough times. My mom has always been my hero too but never more than she is now.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you and your mom.
Babalax, I am happy that you have been able to relate to my experiences with my mom .Please just cherish what you still have with your mom for your love and her love can move mountains. I'm here for you. Lisa
DeleteThank you very much, Lisa. Even though we live miles apart, we've never been closer. I visit her as often as I can, which works out to be every other month. I absolutely cherish every moment I spend with her, in person or on the phone. I soak it up like a sponge :) ~Barb
DeleteNothing, and I mean nothing, can prepare a daughter for the role of #caretaker of her own mother. It's difficult. It's maddening. It's heartbreaking and it's rewarding. It's frightening and yet the alternatives often seem scarrer. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I invite you to add your comment and insight to a blog detailing my own experiences. It needs a lot of work. I am often too exhausted in the moment to be able to capture it. I'm working on using the blog as a way to decompress during those very times. Please do stop by www.daughtersandmoms.com.
ReplyDeleteDear Ruth, I encourage you to keep writing. It has been so therapeutic for me and healing. I support you in your endeavor. Lisa
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