HOW IS YOUR MOM DOING ?
This is mom 24 years ago. A lot has changed since then. My dad is deceased for 20 years and my son Logan is now 26 years old. Mom lives in a nursing home and we recently celebrated her 90th birthday. Except for Alzheimer's and macular degeneration she takes no medication and is in perfect health.
My family has lots to celebrate and be thankful for. There is one question that I frequently am asked which is "how is your mom doing?" I often answer,"my mom is doing good considering that she has Alzheimer's for the last ten years."
Several weeks ago I stopped to really think about how I just answered this question. My thoughts traveled to thinking about mom, a lady who has no idea about where she is living, or what she just ate.
She does not know that she should get dressed each day,and better yet. she does not have to wonder about what to wear.
She's doing good even if she is not aware of what day it is, the month, nor the year. She has no idea what has transpired in the world. She has no fear of Ebola or terrorism.
She does not understand that her only grandchild has become engaged. In fact she does not really remember that she has a grandchild.
She no longer needs to think about what friend she might like to spend the day with, or what movie she would like to go see. She no longer has to make any decisions on whether she'd like to take a walk in the park, stroll on the beach, or go to her favorite museum.
She does not remember that she was married for 50 years to my father, nor does not remember giving birth to her two children or, at moments, even that she has any.
Yes mom is doing good and she never has to decide on where she'd like to go on vacation or what country she'd like to travel to. Life for her has certainly become "carefree".
So my answer to this question "how is your mom doing?" It will remain the same, for considering what is left in mom's world at least I can believe that she is happy. Happy for she is not aware of a world that exists outside of the four walls that she now resides in.
Mom has no understanding of how her life has been wiped away by such a horrible disease. So how is my mom doing? She'd doing good, and how am I doing? I'm also doing good, which is a conscious choice that I have made.
I can be happy or I can be sad. I choose to be happy. Happy that mom is not aware of what is happening to her.
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