Thursday, March 26, 2015

MOMENTS TO TREASURE



 MOMENTS TO TREASURE

As I reflect back on the trip that I spent with mom I feel a sense of achievement. Maybe achievement is the incorrect word. It's more like I received a gift to have been able to share and spend so many special moments with her. Mom is quite different now, she has become an innocent sweet child filled with love.

Hearing her call me Lis (short for Lisa) touches me deeply. I now have such compassion for her as she searches all over for her mother. I have often said that as degrading as Alzheimer's disease is, there is also a "hidden silver lining". Mom has traveled back to a time when she felt safe, loved and protected. A place that will always be her home.

It's sweet to hear her speak of her deep love for her parents. She mentions her mother almost every day. When her mom passed away I was quite young. I then was able to witness how much she loved and respected her father. The grandfather I knew was a very special man whom I adored. To honor him I named my son after him.

One day during my visit mom was extremely tired and only wanted to go to sleep. When the aide and I put her down for a nap (hmm, like a baby) she did not want to fall asleep because she was concerned that her mother was waiting for her. I replied "mom it's okay she'll be here when you wake up." Mom whispered just before she closed her eyes "oh okay."

Later that day we spoke about my father which she rarely does. I'm not sure how much she remembers him. I want to believe that there are moments when she does think of him, before they quickly disappear and wash out to sea.

Before mom became ill some of the things she said would bother me. Not anymore, for now I treasure everything she expresses as if she has me in a trance.  I consider myself lucky to be able to smile and appreciate the things she says instead of feeling upset.

Being able to feel this way certainly opens my heart, and gives me much needed space to still be able to share with her whatever time we have left together.


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7 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing your story about you and your mom. It brought back the memories of my relationship with my mom before Alzheimer's took her life on December 21, 2014. One good thing that came out of this horrendous disease is that we became closer than we had ever been before. I'm grateful for that. She did get her final wish before passing. She had told me that she was going to spend Christmas with Jesus...and she did. I miss her so much but at least I know she's not sick anymore. Thanks again and may God richly bless you.

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    1. Dear Brenda, I'm so sorry about your moms passing. Our stories are similar for I too got another chance in my life to love my mom unconditionally. If she did mot get ill I'm not sure that this would have occurred. xoxo Lisa

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  2. Thank you for sharing, my mom is also fighting this awful disease.

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    1. Joan I am so sorry about your mom. Please know that I am here for you. Hugs, Lisa

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