Tuesday, September 20, 2011
My mom one year ago still had glimpses of some memories, from years ago. Most people are surprised by this, because they think that an Alzheimer patient can remember events from long ago. Not my mom.
I wonder if she stay’s lost in her world not to feel more pain or anger for what is happening to her? She seems not to want to remember the painful hurtful memories. She mentions that her parents are deceased and that her younger brother Alvin died. Alvin had advanced Alzheimer’s. He did not even know his own children, and towards the end he was wearing diapers. When my mom would see him I remember her being so upset that he just sat there and stared into space not knowing her. My mom had expressed how upset she was ,and that she did not want to see him anymore. Her statement had bothered me. How could my mom not want to see her baby brother? Did she not understand what was happening to him? At that time her own dementia was starting to affect her, and she was becoming out of touch with her own feelings.
My husband called while I was visiting (last year) and my mom answered the phone. I heard her say “who is this” and he answered” its Bert” and mom then said” who do you want to speak to”? Then she asked him his last name. He said to his mother- in- law, who he has known for 30 years , since we have been married, ” my name is Bert Hirsch.” My mom then says to me “Lisa, Bert Hirsch is on the telephone for you”. Not knowing who he was. Need I say more?
Update- This past Sunday I went with my husband to visit my mom’s brother’s son. My cousin Richard was my uncle’s only son, and my mom only had one brother. Yet my mom could not remember who cousin Richard was, although she did say that his name sounded familiar. Ruthie also had no memory of her brother passing away. When I mentioned that he died, my mom went silent on the other side of the phone, and then when she caught her breath she muttered the words in a very soft tone, “my brother died?” Yes mom he did and I looked in amazement, and wondered how this could also disappear from her memory. Her one and only younger brother who she protected and watched over as a child.
FACT- Alzheimer's is the 6th leading cause of death in the United States. It has no cure or prevention as of today. It is becoming a worldwide epidemic.